I know a lot of you probably jumped on this post like, “where are you about to go with this, aren’t you married?” To answer your question, yes, I am! I just wanted to use a catchy title to grasp your attention for a moment. Now, why would I want to do something like that? To be honest, it’s been a minute, a year to be exact, since I’ve written a blog so I needed to peak your interest somehow. Did it work? Good! We are going to talk about cuffing, but not the one that you’re use to hearing about (inserts a wink)! Cuffing season, as we all know, is a period of time where single people begin looking for short term partnerships to pass the colder months of the year. I want to leave you with something long term that will be effective during all of the seasons.
Cuffing has numerous meanings, let’s not pretend like it doesn’t. You can wear cuffs (handcuffs), you can also cuff the sleeves on your shirt or bottom of your pants, and then there is the cuff where it means a blow or to slap with an open hand. I want to talk about cuffing in the context of handcuffing, the restraining device used to bind your hands. How many of us are bound to things in life? It can be anything for example: people, things, trauma, money, addictions, resentment and the list goes on. I recently heard a message that talked about the things that you are “yolked” to can and WILL take control over your life. What’s tying you down and causing you to not progress in life? Has unforgiveness of that “thing” he or she has done to you kept you from embracing the freedom of forgiveness? Are you shackled to your addictions? You can’t walk out of the house without that addiction reeling you in and causing havoc wherever you go.
What is restraining you from being the very best version of yourself? A moment of transparency, I struggle with living in the past a lot. I try to move forward, but sometimes I allow things or people to pull me back to “back then.” I’ve held my own self back in many instances because I was too worried about the “old Alicia” and what she did or didn’t do that affected the “present Alicia.” Have you ever caught yourself saying things like, “if only I had of done this or that” or “if only I didn’t choose this path or that field”? If so, then you are bound to your past as well. Living in regret and bathing in a pool of pity has never gotten anyone far in life. Ask those who are still sitting there bathing and wrinkling in it.
I want to encourage you, as well as myself today, to break free of the things that are “cuffing” you! Stop carrying all of those unnecessary burdens and free yourself. The weight will only get heavier as life moves forward and you will be stuck in the same spot unable to move. I’m not sure what that “thing” is or who that person is, or where that place was you are trying to break free from, but I urge you to find that key and uncuff yourself! Trust me, it’s a constant battle daily, but you CAN and WILL get through it, IF you don’t give up on yourself! Remember, “handcuffs have keys for a reason, find them and free yourself!”
“Weighting for a Change” by Alicia S. Azahar
What’s weighing you down? Is it the burdens that come with life?
Are you shackled by disappointments and situations that bring you strife?
What has a hold of you and doesn’t want to let you go?
What has silenced your voice and has ran away your hope?
How heavy are your burdens and the things you hold on to?
What has caused you to sigh and grumble with everything that you do?
What has caused your face to harden and your laughter to decrease?
What has wiped away your smile, but caused your sorrow to increase?
Who has told you that you won’t make it and whispered failure in your ear?
What has blinded your once clear vision and has deafened what you hear?
What has replaced your beautiful reflection and traded it in for an ugly mask?
What has caused you to lose focus and forced you on a forbidden path?
What has made you question your abilities and lose confidence in yourself?
What has caused you to feel so lonely and to think no one will help?
What has given you a reason to quit and to throw in the towel?
Where’s the place that you’ve been buried in and stuck for awhile?
Those burdens you’re holding are only heavy as you allow them all to be,
There is someone who can take them, just give him your permission to carry,
How do you expect your burdens to lighten if you are not willing to exchange?
So trade them in for a lighter load while you are “weighting” for a change